I have been eagerly waiting for the elections to come to an end so that I can resume my hobbies. I will have to brace myself for more instead. Meanwhile, it’s time to resume my hobbies nonetheless.

Talking of our modern living, it seems there’s a dominating force taking over our being and zapping our happiness and sadly, it’s something that prefers corrupting the lives of women rather than men. “More than ever we’re feeling bad when we don’t or can’t keep up with everything that’s expected of us and it’s making us overly giving, hyper-responsible and devoted to pleasing others,” says Susan Carell. “Modern life is giving women far more choice and opportunities than ever, meaning there is so much else for us to feel guilty about”.

Paul Gilbert, author of ‘The Compassionate Mind’ agrees that its society’s continuing high expectations on women that are the main cause of the rise of this new phenomenon. “These days women are constantly urged to compare themselves to others, be it the super-woman-style work colleague who manages to juggle a family, a demanding career and two Pilate’ classes a week, to the endless media images of gorgeous celebrities, “ he says.

I was going through some of my Saturday Nation Magazines and our own Joan Thatiah has done a great job tackling this issue in her articles. We constantly seek public approval for our life decisions, in most cases from people who have no stake in it whatsoever. Women always have the need to explain their life choices due to society’s certain expectations of us. We fail to realize that it is okay to do that which makes us happy and complete. Never waste your precious time explaining to anyone why you live the way you do. Explaining or trying to justify your life choices is akin to doubting your sense of judgment. Let the approval come from within. If your mind, soul, and heart are at peace, forget about the opinion polls.

You could be this lady who decided to quit a six-figure job in order to raise her kids in the best way she knows how and deep inside you are always trying to justify why you have no intention of re-entering the workplace or maybe you are this lady still enjoying her freedom and everyone around you is either getting pregnant, engaged or getting married. Stop explaining yourself to others. You are simply giving out control over your life and before you know it, people will be walking all over you. Take charge of your life and remember that the only people who need an explanation are those affected by your choices.





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About Author

I am a Medical Underwriter in arguably one of the largest insurance companies in East Africa. It’s during this period that I emerged from my cocoon, I discovered interesting things about myself that have continually nudged me to face life with renewed radiance. I discovered my hobbies were not just sleeping and reading but I had more to offer life than I possibly thought. It’s safe to say these days I run out of time ….I love swimming, dancing, blogging, modelling and watching movies. As far as my long-term career development goals are concerned.My career goal right now is to get a chance to work as Business Developer-Health division, take up a senior management position later on and in due time become a CEO with an aim of impacting positively in the insurance industry.I plan to also study a Diploma in Insurance to add to my actuarial degree, grow in the underwriting department and get to a management position.If you are an employee,you should be shortlisting me now. When free I run a personal blog Dollypinky.com, please subscribe and get inspired by my articles. In addition, I am actively pursuing modelling at my free time. I have found interest in this field as it has helped me refine my body language and brought out additional positive aspects in my personality. Follow me on Instagram and twitter as Dollypinky_chepngetich and get to read my interesting posts which more often than not are accompanied by some good images.


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