I cannot deny that I love attention, as does every lady. Ladies love attention but I must also add that I have learned to no longer beg for attention unlike when I was younger. I would cry after a fight with my brother so that my father came running to my rescue. I have grown to know the value and worth I carry. I am learning to involve God in my battles and leave the people I love to attend to other urgent issues.
Some men, unfortunately, have used this need for attention to their evil advantage, denying the women the attention they are dying for, making the women try so hard to get it. This is the same as fighting the women in their lives, the reason we hear of women staying in abusive relationships. Women of high positions are not left out. Love knows no status. Unfortunately, we get to hear the full story while attending the funeral, after someone was brutally murdered. It has to stop!
The way some men bring down a lady, however strong, is by manipulating their thinking. They make them feel useless, they shout at them showing clearly there is a distance between them, otherwise, there is no need to shout and what makes it even worse is comparing them to other ladies. This kills the self-esteem of any lady and they start wondering what could be wrong with them.This way, they make the lady see him as the hero and the only man who can stand her. I am tired of hearing all these sad stories of a lady killed by her lover, lady having her hands chopped off by her spouse, lady blah blah…why don’t we value our women?
A real secure man is not intimidated by a powerful lady and does not need to manipulate anyone. He encourages her and holds her hand when the road is slippery, he helps her finds herself and is not scared of her doing better than him. He will not toy with her emotions but allow her to be herself. These men end up with the best wives because they make them by allowing them to be themselves.
Someone once said, Love is not just about finding the right person but creating the right relationship, it’s not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you built till the end. Love is not about the number of children you have in your marriage, it’s all about the two of you.